Guess what I found out yesterday? I learned that the clothes that looked awful on me when I WASN’T pregnant are the same freaking clothes available with some stretchy fabric over the belly now that I AM pregnant.
We went to Destination Maternity yesterday and I’ve never been so depressed about clothes in my life. Forget the fact that the belly panels are still way too big on me, the fucking pants don’t make it up past my thighs. Which really AREN’T that big (my thighs I mean)! It’s all this boot cut crap. I can’t wear boot cut crap. Couldn’t wear it when I WASN’T pregnant and I can’t wear it now that I AM pregnant.
I need clothes. I have to work this weekend and I don’t have ANYTHING to wear. Well, I have the same pair of maternity cargo shorts I’ve been wearing every single freaking day since SPIN OUT (which finally have to be washed because walking on the street yesterday I had to cough and wouldn’t you know it, I “leaked.” Which is just a nice way of saying I PISSED MY PANTS! AGAIN! AND I WASN’T EVEN PUKING!) My shirts all still fit me, for the most part (I’m fond of saying I’ve reached fetish porn start status with the size of my boobs) but I need pants.
I’m ready. I’m really really ready for this pregnancy stuff to become fun. Any time now. I’m ready.
PS – If you want to see the one and only belly shot I’ve had taken, check here. Although please ignore the chin thing going on. I look like Jabba the freaking Hut.
Find an Old Navy near you that carries Maternity clothes. They are so much more comfortable for me than the mall maternity store clothes. You can also order online.
I second the Old Navy recommendation. Those were the only maternity clothes I could wear that fit comfortably and looked halfway decent. My left boob wouldn’t fit into maternity clothes from the mall.
Extra bonus: Old Navy is inexpensive!!
definately have to say Old Navy. Got some nice jeans and stuff there. And its not horribly overpriced like the mall. the outlets are even better.
Youi do look great by the way. When i was pregnant I drank gallons of Mango Electrico gatorade. Any cravings yet?
I second the Old Navy Maternity and if they have a maternity t-shirt sale going on stock up because those babies are invaluable if you plan on breast feeding!
In Canada we have a store called Thyme Maternity that has a great line called “Before and After”. Basically they are low-ish cut pants and skirts with an elastic in the back half of the pants and the beauty part is no belly panel! For my last pregnancy these were all I wore till the last few weeks when jersey gauchos were the only comfortable thing to wear.
Good luck!
I felt the same way. I wore short-alls and men’s large shorts for my entire pregnancy. I couldn’t wear any of the “fashionable” maternity wear.
Wish things were different for you.
Wish stretch pants were around when I was pregnant, too. Maybe you could try yoga pants??
Do you know I don’t have a single belly shot in three pregnancies? All I’ve got is an ass shot — it’s pretty funny because we’re in our motel apartment (between house closings) and I’m in my nightie (coulda guessed that one), ironing clothes for work, and the morning TV news is on and you can see Mr. T (I think, Hulk Hogan was on, too), and the little stuffed lamb that I had to have from the hospital gift shop after one of our Lamaze classes. It’s one of my favorite slice-of-(my)life photos.
I don’t want to hear any complaining about maternity clothes — you should have seen the SHIT crap clothes I got to choose from.
; )
I looked at Old Navy and couldn’t find anything that I liked (too trendy for this engineer). I ended up with mostly clothes from the Motherhood Maternity Outlet and JCPenney’s (people laugh at me, but I got a really cool pair of cargo pants there). But until I could fit into those panel pants (which are now getting tight), I used Belly Belts to get some extra time out of my pre-pregnancy pants.
Don’t listen to anyone who tells you not to buy maternity clothes, just to buy clothes a size larger than you will need. Hello? I am 5’1″, my arms and legs aren’t growing…………..my stomach is!! I second JCPenney. Hasn’t LLBean or LandsEnd come out with maternity wear? I hate boot cut anything as well. You go girl!
I got almost all of my pregnancy clothes on eBay. If they didn’t fit, I just sold them back on eBay. Also, Lands’ End makes some good pants that go up higher than your hips. They can be kind of hard to find on the website – the stock seems to go up and down. I got two pairs of pants like that on their overstock section – you might check there. Also, the Gap’s website has some pants that have a full panel and go up higher.
Old Navy is great … although if you find something you like there, buy multiple versions in multiple colors as soon as you can. My favorite t-shirts and shorts were sold out by the time I realized that they were the only things that fit at the end.
Other favorites came from the Gap and motherhood.com. What sizes are you looking for? I have some lightly worn clothes I would be happy to pass on ….
Honey, if I’d looked that good when I was pregnant I’d have run right down to the nearest modeling studio and just sat there until someone noticed my fabulous gorgeosity, and it wouldn’t have taken long.
As for feeling better, with luck you will soon. Plus you can hold all this over the kid’s head for the rest of their life. Plan on it.
Old Navy is great, but when I needed office clothes I looked elsewhere. Japanese Weekend and Olian both may comfy cute hip clothes. It took a little while to get used to maternity clothes because they were made of stretchy fabric that I never wear, but believe me, you learn to love it. Plus its easy to wash.
old navy is good, and my friend who just had a baby said target was great (although at 5’10” she said everything was just a little too short). she has the same problem with boot-cut pants (and i guess most pants in general)and said the pants there for work fit great!
Old Navy can be a life saver for the casual clothes – as for business clothes if you aren’t going to wear them a lot & they won’t be tossed into the washer too often I would go with Targets line.
Best part – everything can be ordered on line & can have that little dressing room breakdown in your own bedroom.
i lived at mim maternity and gap maternity… now anne taylor and old navy have it to…
Get a pair of these. I had a similar pair from Liz Lange for Target and wore them throughout my pregnancy, to the hospital, and home again (in case no one’s told you, you will look about as pregnant as you do now in that great Spin Out pic when you bring the bebe home). Old Navy is also a good option for inexpensive pregnancy clothes. Congratulations, BTW, and best wishes that you move on to the “honeymoon” portion of your pregnancy soon!
also, near the end skirts are good, which I got at gap.. because I grew out of all the maternity pants I owned and after 30 weeks I saw no point in buying more expensive jeans I would grow out of. And near the end it should be spring right?
Yeah, go Old Navy for casual clothes – Target or Mimi Maternity for nicer clothes. Japanese Weekend is nice, too, but a little $$ for clothes you’re only going to wear a handful of times.
Your belly shot is awesome. Take lots of them – It’s nice to look back on them. You look great in the photo – all rosy and not at all pukey. 😉
When I was pregnant (both times), I purchased clothes from Old Navy. You can also buy regular pants and buy a belly extender thingy. I liked Land’s End items, which I could use after the pregnancy. I know what you mean about Boot cut. I can’t wear a lot of the clothes either, but not because I’m preggos, but because of my weird pear shape. Good luck. It does get better.
When I was pregnant (both times), I purchased clothes from Old Navy. You can also buy regular pants and buy a belly extender thingy. I liked Land’s End items, which I could use after the pregnancy. I know what you mean about Boot cut. I can’t wear a lot of the clothes either, but not because I’m preggos, but because of my weird pear shape. Good luck. It does get better.
Maybe you’d like the stuff at Japanese Weekend (www.japaneseweekend.com). It’s pretty pricey, but their sale section is great. I bought a few key pieces from them and wore them constantly through my pregnancy, and they were the most comfy, stylish maternity clothes. Their clothes run the gamut from stuff you’d wear while hanging out around the house to great going-out clothes and office clothes. And again: look at the SALE section.
Have you tried a Bella Band (http://www.ingridandisabel.com/)?
They are sold at a variety of maternity stores. Basically, it’s a lycra tube that you wear over your existing (non-maternity) pants. YOu can keep you pants unzipped, and the band holds them up. I wore my regular pants with a bella band well into the second trimester. The bella band was a godsend post partum, as well, since the tummy takes a while to shrink back down.
I really loved J C Penney’s maternity stuff. I found that it looked good and was super comfortable:
http://www2.jcpenney.com/jcp/categoryall.aspx?CatTyp=FEA&DeptID=597&Dep=Women%27s&CatID=29986&cmCatLevel=3&cmCatID=597
For my first, I bought regular pants a couple sizes up from my normal size, and those took me until I could use the real maternity pants.
Target had good maternity stuff (good-looking and inexpensive) last time I checked (3 yrs ago, ha!).
Mimi Maternity is great if you are normally a size 3 (not me), like your tops to be so low-cut as to nicely show off your belly button (again, not me), and don’t mind skirts that only come down to mid-thigh (guess).
Stefanie Japfel (spelling?) of Glampyre Knits (www.glampyre.com – check her blog) has been knitting a couple of maternity/nursing sweaters that look really cute.
listen, prepare yourself that it may never get fun until you are holding that precious, gorgeous little one in your arms. i’m not being a downer, just trying to give you a realistic expectation-i absolutely love me 3 children and would do whatever i had to to get them, but i did NOT enjoy pregnancy at all-barfing, swelling, aching, peeing, on and on. And the clothes-who do they think WEARS those clothes anyway??! we are not all 8 feet tall and weigh 115 in the 3rd trimenster!! that being said, motherhood maternity is super and old navy is ok but sometimes features the “trendy” side of maternity a bit much when i just wanted to be comfortable (ie not feel like my pants were falling down or my crack was showing)also, kohl’s department store (you can order onlie) has a line of maternity clothes from Motherhood that is less expensive than what is actually sold in the Motherhood stores. Hang in there-there IS an end to the hell, even if it is after delivery, and it is AMAZING!!!
Cara, this truly is one of the worst parts of pregnancy. Not quite big enough to warrant the big gun maternity clothes, but not small enough to fit in non maternity clothes.
Check Target or Old Navy. Or do you have a Motherhood Maternity at your local mall?
Actually, Sears or Penneys are good places too. Your more likely to find the “normal” not uber trendy bootcut, lowrise crap there.
I’m with you. I could never wear that stuff either. I found a pair of maternity overalls on eBay and practically lived in them.
A rubber band helps. Tie it into the button hole, then around you pants button. May I also suggest Poise pantyliners.
Okay, first, you look great! I looked like a freaking Weeble when I was pregnant or better yet!
Old Navy and Gap have maternity. Also, I would recommend splurging on one nice pair of pants for “work” stuff. Seriously, you will feel so much better.
I also agree with the size bigger stuff. I purchased a pair of black microfiber-ish pants with an elastic waist in a size 2 times my normal size and I lived in them through 2 pregnancies. They could be dressy for work, casual for non-work. The were black and comfy and expanded with my body and I loved them and still have them for those “chubby” days.
Kathy
oh, bella band how i loved you!! if you still fit into your pre-preg clothes minus the belly get some bella bands. they are a life saver! i used them until i was 7 months pregnant when my hips expanded (and honestly never contracted sadly.) and always wear panty liners. i never went without them!
Target & Old Navy– they have clothes for those of us who are in fact average sized. Inexpensive and not bad looking. Another brand that I loved was Japanese Weekend, but they’re not that easy to find.
I cant give any suggestions on the clothing, but if you want some humour for the pregnancy road I could direct you to a friend of mine who makes me laugh all the time 🙂
hoping it gets better and you find some clothes to make you feel as gorgeous as you look!
bises
Cara,
Perhaps a baby blog to share vomiting and incontinence issues would be appropriate?
I have to say that even though I’ve enjoyed reading your (mostly) knitting blog for a couple of years now, the pregnancy tales from the gross side are not my taste.
I’m happy for you, and congratulations on fulfilling your dream of motherhood, but I did not subscribe to a pregnancy blog and I will no longer be reading.
I know it doesn’t feel like it, but you’re looking great.
For everyday stuff, I liked Gap and Motherhood Maternity. For stuff that made me feel more gorgeous than gorgeous (tough–I hated every damn minute of my pregnancy with Jacob), I loved Japanese Weekend. You can sometimes find stuff cheaply on eBay, or splurge in the store.
I didn’t know about the Bella Band when I was pregnant, but several friends have sworn by them since.
Have you tried Mother Wear? I liked the clothes I found there when I was knocked up.
http://www.motherwear.com/cat.cfm/cid/74
I was going to come here and tell you to try and think or the end result. That puking and pissing your pants and not being able to find clothes all suck but you’re having a baby and isn’t it all worth it? Then I came back to reality. This is your last chance to be totally selfish (I don’t mean that in a bad way). Right now you’re the pregnant (although miserable) woman, the center of the universe. Everyone is uber concerned with your health and wellbeing; they all want to touch your belly and ask you mundane questions with rapt attention. Enjoy it while you can, when the baby comes they’ll be spellbound and you’ll be lucky if they remember your name. I’m exaggerating of course but the point is still valid. Live it up (as best you can), be selfish, indulge and let it be all about you for awhile – savor it.
Oh, and stop puking. 😉
Macy’s online has some nice mix and match cheap office maternity pieces.
If you actually want to go to a Macy’s – call ahead to make sure they have a maternity dept.
I love my Gap Maternity jeans. They are the only maternity thing I’ve spent over $50 on and they are well worth it (I’m not going to spend a ton of money on clothes I’m only going to wear for 6 months). Gap has a maternity section in the back of a lot of their Baby Gap stores or you can order online and return what doesn’t fit to any Gap.
Also, try to find pants and skirts(skirts don’t have as many thigh issues as pants) that have the low wide elastic band that goes under the belly instead of the big belly panel, they should fit from now until the end. I also used elastic hair ties to hold the buttons closed on my pants for a a while, just be sure your shirt covers it.
FWIW I think you look totally cute and happy in that photo!!! I agree about Target and Old Navy for maternity clothes.
Girlfriend.
You look good.
Didn’t notice no chin until you pointed it out, because your fantastic smile and cute January One belly were in the way.
JCPenney was about the only place that I could find maternity pants to fit me. I also had a fantastic maternity cardigan from there that I just about wore out, I loved it so much. The prices are very reasonable there as well. I wish that Target’s Liz Lange line had been available when I was pregnant because those clothes look nice as well.
I like Motherhood stores. Nice clothes, different styles of panels on the pants and different styles of leg pants too.
I hope you reach a nice and happy stage of your pregnancy. (I never did, all 8 months I knew I was pregnant I was miserable…but I know of many women who love being preggie).
About your puking: have you tried stopping eating certain things, maybe they are triggering the puking. On the last month of my first pregnancy, I was diagnosed as lactose intolerant, so every time I drank a dairy product I puked for the entire day. Anyways, from that diagnosis, I learned that I couldn’t have dairy when pregnant, so my second pregnancy was less pukey.
The picture of you looks very nice :).
I second (third? fourth? I didn’t read all the comments) the recommendation for JCPenney. They had a little five-piece set. ALL BLACK, ALL JERSEY. Pants, skirt, dress, and two tops. Most comfortable things ever. I am not a dress kinda girl at all, but I practically lived in that black dress.
I second the rubber band suggestion if your pants still fit aside from the belly, I was able to get away with that for a few months. Old Navy, JC Penny, and Motherhood Maternity are all good suggestions. I have to hope that regular sizes are at least a little better than the plus size maternity clothes. I’m having a hard time finding anything that doesn’t look remotely awful. And your pregnancy should start getting a least a little fun soon. It started being really fun for me when I could feel the baby kicking.
Cute bump!
I loathe maternity pants. LOATHE them. The panels are extremely uncomfortable, I always looked for the lower rise ones with the stretchy part all around.
Try Old Navy (I’ve seen it mentioned a couple of times already), but I had trouble finding anything other than a S or XS. Really, who is an XS when they’re pregnant? Motherhood Maternity has some decent pants too, but nothing fits. Nothing.
awww!!! I feel so bad for you guys! Sarah W. Is feeling *just* as crappy. Hopefully soon you’ll get to the nesty, glowy phase. AND LOOK AT THAT BUMP!! YAY!
The place I got most of my maternity wear from was the Gap. They actually have a store with a maternity section on N. Michigan Ave., so after my OB appointments I’d usually give myself a little clothing treat. I found a couple of pairs of bottoms that I am still wearing now as I work off my post-baby weight.
I got most of my work tops from Belly Dance maternity. Kind of pricey, but it made me feel happy to have some boutique-y clothes to go to work in. One of my favorite brands is Japanese Weekend — they have a nice line of tops that you can wear afterwards when you are nursing.
I hope you find some things you like. Having some clothes you feel good in makes all the difference! Or at least it did for me.
I feel kind of bad saying this, because you do sound kinda miserable, but your posts have been making me laugh out loud!
Actually, this post almost made me piss my pants a little with laughter. Keep trying, you won’t be the only one sporting urine stained pants if you keep this up!
Don’t mind that ninny who is grossed out and thinks you should sequester your pregnancy blogging. Some folks just enjoy spreading their displeasure around – they’d like to tarnish everyone’s soul to match their own. Tell them TFB and good riddance!
There is enough fiber and knitting content here to keep anyone interested, IMO.
I have quietly stopped reading one knitting blog that did turn into an all-baby-all-the-time affair. You’re nowhere near that point, and seem to have so many other interests that it’s unlikely to happen.
Missus, you look cute (even if you don’t feel like it) and your skin is gorgeous.
I think you look adorable. And the styles now are a bit better than they were 15 years ago when I was pregnant. Lucky for me, my mom made a bunch of maternity dresses for me so I had lots of new things to wear. I really think you need to get one of those shirts with the big arrow pointing at your belly and proclaiming “Baby”. Just saying.
Don’t worry Cara, we Love you, puke and all. :^)
Cute belly bump!
Like many people who have already commented, I had the most luck at Motherhood Maternity and Old Navy.
In specific, as far as the “bootcut” problem, I worried about Old Navy because their non-maternity pants never fit my thighs. However, I found their maternity pants to be cut very differently, i.e. for real people. They do tend to have lower waistbands than traditional, but I find them comfortable.
Cara, thanks for keeping up this blog; I love your photos and your commentary. The more public one is, the more people seem to feel free to be sarcastic/catty/negative. After all, if someone is not interested, no one is chaining them to their computer terminal to force them to read!
And thanks for everything you do, Heifer Int’l and Spin Out, etc. This is the GOOD side of the publicness, that a project that you spearhead can gather the mighty force of knitters/spinners/fiberistas to make our world a better place.
BTW, I’m an OB/GYN, and I’m sure you’ve read all the books and everyone’s given you an earful. So I haven’t stuck my oar in. But rest assured that week by week, if not necessarily day by day (it fluctuates, as you’ve found out), that the puking improves. A few people are sick throughout (sometimes there’s acid reflux issues too) but for most women, the nausea and tiredness peak at 10 weeks then improve. But the worse the sick part is, the longer it takes to get better; 16-18 weeks is pretty common for significant vomiting to go away if it was severe. Dang. Peeing? Well, some of that’s hormonal relaxation and direct pressure on the bladder; Kegel’s exercises should help as you feel up to them. Lastly, the headaches for some reason, if you’re prone, peak later than all the other early pregnancy symptoms, more like 14 weeks. But for almost everybody, they go away by 18-20 weeks too.
Can’t wait till you feel this little one bopping around inside (18-20 weeks with your first, usually, as you no doubt have read). By then, all the above WILL be better (maybe or maybe not gone, but BETTER), and it WILL be more fun, I promise! Cross my heart!
Hang in there.
I never had much luck at Motherhood..now Destination Maternity..Other places to get maternity stuff; Kohl’s if you have them, and Sears. Seriously, Sears. I bought some cute work clothes from Sears.
Good Luck!
oh GAWD..the lovely things that we moms go through to have these little rays of sunshine. no? all I can say to you is that this time next year.. none of this will even matter and you may even laugh & cringe at the though of it, and what it ONCE was! as for the peeing.. been there, done that! your pic is beautiful..your glowing — and I just read the letter from the HAG who for whatever reason felt the need to say that.. if she’s a mother.. God help her children. BEST TO YOU!
I liked JCPenney for maternity items. I wore overalls ALL the time and I didn’t care! Sometimes it was a PITA to hold up the straps while in a public restroom but I was soooooo comfortable in those overalls. I had 3 pairs and wore them up ’til I changed into my hospital gown! Good luck!
I’m 53 & childless (although I do have a 7yo grandson thanks to DH) BUT as much as I LOVE your knitting stuff, I’m enjoying reading about your joys and travails as relates to this pregnancy. You look gorgeous in the picture AND I feel blessed that you feel comfortable sharing so much of yourself with us, your dear readers!!
That said, I ain’t got a clue about preggo clothes BUT it sounds like you got plenty of people helping you out in that regard!! AND I do agree with whoever suggested the pads – obviously that particular problem’s gonna’ hang around for a while – better not to worry!!
I just have to say it…”you poor thing”. I feel really terrible that your pregnancy isn’t going that well. I hope that things will take a turn for the better soon!
I found a few things at Old Navy, but I actually liked the clothes at Target much better. They all seemed to have a better fit than Motherhood, especially the pants. The key is to find the essentials, especially in the bottoms. I had to dress for work, so it got a little hard, but I had the old standby’s that will go with anything, and that really saved me. But I will tell you what, skirts and dresses are so much more comfortable than the pants. I’ve lived in them for the last nine months. I despise the belly panel and refuse to wear it, but in the later months, the other pants just don’t stay up. Skirts and dresses are so much more versatile, and you’re not constantly pulling up your pants!
Good luck finding stuff – and I will continue to read your blog, because I realize it’s YOUR blog, and you get to write whatever it is you want, and I choose to read it everyday!
I lived in clothes from Gap Maternity. I think their jeans are very comfortable, I plan to wear them as long as I can get away with now that I’m not pregnant. Hang in there, the 2nd trimester will be much better….at least eventually!!
How utterly freaking rude of the coward called anonymous to leave a comment like this. Your blog, like the rest of us who have one, is there for one reason – so that we may have the pleasure to discuss what WE want. This blog belongs to you, no one else. If you want to talk pregnancy instead of knitting, then go right ahead. No one should tell you what you can and cannot do here. I have two blogs and I don’t care if I have zero readers. It is there for my pleasure and if I get a group of people who want to join in my conversation then that is just icing on an already delicious cake.
This is my first post here, so I will take the opportunity to say congratulations also.
you turned off comments for the post about that anonymous commenter. but i am so sneaky that i will comment here! MWAHAHA!
anyway, i enjoy that your blog combines knitting with anecdotes about your daily life. my blog is not just a “knitting blog,” although it was started to document my knitting projects. you and i must have dirty minds, because all the talk about vomiting and peeing ones pants doesn’t bother me in the slightest :). you should continue to write about whatever the hell you want (as i’m sure you will), and don’t listen to no@where.com. i’m still reading, and i’m sure i’m not the only one!
How rude of the “anonymous” to leave a comment like this. Your blog, like the rest of us who have one, is there for one reason – so that we may have the pleasure to discuss what WE want. This blog belongs to you, no one else. If you want to talk pregnancy instead of knitting, then go right ahead. No one should tell you what you can and cannot do here. I have two blogs and I don’t care if I have zero readers. It is there for my pleasure and if I get a group of people who want to join in my conversation then that is just icing on an already delicious cake.
This is my first post here, so I will take the opportunity to say congratulations also.
Cara, when I was pregnant (not so long ago — 10 years) Gap, Lands End, and Nordstrom’s all laughed at me when I suggested maternity clothes. As if pregnancy were a fad that would soon fade. . . so I had awful clothes the whole time, and I empathize. And I loved the magazine suggestions to wear your husband’s shirts — some of us are married to skinny men, ya know!! Oh, and that nasty remark you replied to on October 4? Most of us love you just the way you are.
It’s been a few years, but when I was last pregnant, Target was my go-to place for cute, well-made maternity clothes.
I’m sorry you’re having a rough go of it.
Prettiest bump I’ve seen in a long time!
Oh, Cara. I’m sorry you’re getting nastiness. Yeah, pregnancy has a tendency to consume you while you’re, you know, going through it, but crap. If you’re not finding the time and ability to knit, would s/he rather you not post at all? Bah. I hope you keep writing about anything and everything, and that you feel better and better every day.
And you and your chin cannot possibly be blamed for an unfortunate camera angle. You of all people know how powerful angles are!
try the bella band. i used one, and i never needed to buy maternity pants at all, my only clothes purchases were a few long sleeve gap tshirts (extra long in the front to cover the growing bump.)
Pads, definitely pads – Kegel exercises are good, and worth the effort if you can to try to help get things back into working order afterwards, but for now, wear the pads. And I truly empathise with the horribleness of it all – it doesn’t take away one iota of the loveliness and wonderfulness of having an actual real life person growing inside you – one who will tell you that you are the best best Mommy in the whole wide world – but for now – pregnancy sucks. It will pass, really it will.
Wow. Some people seriously just have no manners.
I suppose “anonymous” would be happier if you went off into the Pregnancy Tent for the next several months, and then reappear in a year with a couple-months-old baby that you’re already a pro at feeding, getting to sleep, changing, etc. etc. Heaven forbid real life be messy!
You look gorgeous in that photo – look at that springy hair & glowing skin! It’d be worth puking every morning if I could look that good. Well, maybe every other morning…
Every time I think nothing anyone says or does is ever going to surprise me again… I get another unpleasant surprise. Some people just SUCK.
To reiterate what others have said: IT’S YOUR BLOG. Blog about whatever YOU feel like, and to hell with anyone who has the gall to object.
Geez. Maybe if I wasn’t pregnant I wouldn’t be so interested in reading about your pregnancy, but to attempt to dictate to YOU how you write YOUR blog is ludicrous. And doing it anonymously indicates that Anonymous Dipshit knew that and knew they’d get called on it… so, cowardly, to boot.
Whew… all this righteous indignation is exhausting….
I dont get some people. Its your blog, do what you want with it. And if it grosses them out to read it, I hope to god they never actually get pregnant themselves. Its about time someone have the guts to talk about the grosser side(s) of pregnancy. They are just as real and important as the glamorous ultrasounds.
Dont get me wrong–pregnancy and babies are beautiful things but you dont spend the entire 40 weeks walking around glowing. And for those of us who have actually had kids, your pregnancy posts hit close to home in a hilarious way.
This probably won’t make you feel much better, but with my first baby, I threw up every day up until an hour before he was born. The last 3 months weren’t too horrible. I would wake up, drink a cold glass of cherry juicy juice,(cold juice coming back up is not bad at all, compared to some other things,lol) and within seconds be running to the nearest toilet. After that, I was fine the rest of the day. So even if you sickness doesn’t go away completely, it should get better to some extent.
As for rude people…Look closely to the upper right corner of your monitor. See that little ‘X’? Put your mouse over it, and click!
If you have one near you then H&M can be good, some of the tops especially can be worn after pregnancy. When I was pregnant 2 1/2 years ago, I bought some yoga-style pants in the UK, these were excellent as they worked well through all the stages of pregnancy and afterwards.
I really like that you’re discussing things that are often not spoken about, like leaking. I think it helps other women to know that they’re not the only ones.
Dresses & skirts worked for me. In fact, I was able to buy larger sizes of skirts with elastic waist bands to wear. I could wear them below my belly. I tried the Bella Band which did make some of my pants last longer but it pushed the tab or buttons into my belly which left me an unattractive & uncomfortable imprint of button on my belly. Sweats were the best though…wish I could have lived in them! Gap maternity has some good pants, more expensive than Old Navy but they often have stuff on sale or on the clearance rack. I didn’t do this but I read you can shop in your husband’s closet (my husband is 6’3″ and I’, 5’3″ so that didn’t work for me). Good luck!
Wow, that Anonymous, what a biotch!
You’ve already heard this: Mimi Maternity and Japanese Weekend for work clothers. I ended up with just a little from them and wore them contstantly. My pants from Target looked trashed much too quickly, though other stuff was fine. Personally, I couldn’t stand anything up over my belly, so wore the pants styles that went below. Harder to grow out of them too.
Good luck.
I’ve wanted to comment since the “what’s my age again post” but didn’t because I’m lazy. I don’t care if you write about being pregnant, because you are a person… with a life… outside of knitting. Sometimes even knitters get pregnant. Shocking, I know.
There is nothing wrong with being pregnant and it certainly isn’t gross. It’s just being pregnant. I’ve wanted to comment for some time that I’m proud of you for waiting to get pregnant and not being scared of having a baby near 40. I’m in my mid/late 20’s with no near plans of procreating due to lack of: a career, a definite committed partner and financial resources. In the middle of all my friends having babies and giving me the “when are you?” look, it’s good to see a trend toward women having babies in their mid/late thirties. It makes me feel like I’m not weird for waiting. So good job, way to be a positive role-model!! Ignore the nasty jerk-faces! And I hope that being pregnant becomes fun for you soon.
Another vote of support. I want to read what you have to say. If it’s boring me or grossing me out, I’m smart enough to move along. I guess not everyone is.
I’m sorry about the nasty comments-totally unnecessary. The last time I was pregnant, Target was my friend. They had clothes that were comfortable enough to be happy in all day but completely work-appropriate and machine washable. Motherhood was OK, but pricey. Hang in there!
I second the Bella Band!! I wore mine almost my entire pregnancy, because I had these stretchy maternity pants that would just roll off my belly. The bella band really helped it stay up and if the shirt wasn’t long enough, there was no tummy gap. I would definitely recommend looking into it.
I also really like the Old Navy Maternity section, they have all hte different kinds of maternity panels (i.e. under the belly, panel, etc) so you can choose. I wore a pair of cargo capri ON maternity pants almost the entire summer. 🙂
As for the rude poster, well I would say something, but I would rather be nice. 🙂
Hope you are feeling better soon!
Cara, some people suck. Try not to get it down! I’m still reading and sending you feel-good wishes!!
sorry, I meant “let it get you down”! Duh, I suck at typing.
i wonder if this “annonymous” commenter actually ever read your blog in the first place? if so she would have known that you write about whatever you want to write about. i think you’ve covered this topic before when silly people raise their voices. it’s a blog, folks. take it easy. 🙂
keep your head up, cara. don’t let these random people spoil your days. take good care.
F*ck the naysayers, keep up the great blogging. 🙂
How rude! That poster should just move along quietly, after all, you’ll allowing her the privilege of looking into your life, it’s not like she’s paying you to provide a certain service. The nerve! Please filter that crud out!
oh schmoo. sorry for the crappiness. I hope you are feeling better soon, and you look beautiful in that picture – you look like a happy Cara. 🙂
I can certainly sympathize with you on the maternity pants. I have to vote with the majority and say “Old Navy” – although, more with my previous pregnancy than this one.
Also, the Gap is where I got my 4 pairs of work pants. For shorts, I’ve been wearing size 2XL men’s basketball shorts. Not particularly flattering, but comfy. And, for the most part, they stay up.
Cara,
This blog is part of who you are, in a way. It reflects you, your life, your interests. It matters not that I started reading for the knitting. I’ve kept reading for the writer.
And while I don’t have kids and am not planning to have any, I will continue to read b/c I’ve come to enjoy what you write about best – you.
Hi Cara,
I didn’t subscribe to a pregnancy blog either, but I’m loving following you through yours. You’re so generous to share you life with us- knitting,puking, peeing whatever- You alway make me laugh or smile.
Best wishes to you, the hubby, and the wee one on the way!
Yes, Old Navy. Old Navy Old Navy Old Navy. They have the best maternity stuff AND the best baby clothes.
I just noticed that Ann Taylor Loft has Maternity clothes. They look very professional mix and match items. They would look great for your work. Good luck.
Darling – You are fabulous and your blog is fabulous. I will take the pregnancy misery with your beautiful photos and fun personality any day! Some people have absolutely no common courtesy. P.S.: This stage of pregnancy is annoying, clothing-wise, isn’t it? Maybe some fabulous, trendy track pants? You’d be surprised how far an elastic waistband can stretch.
I 100th the Old NAvy comment. It washes well too. I’m wearing it for a second pregnancy now and it looks new still. It was way more comfortable and made to fit real women; not toothpicks with a bump in the middle.
I also bought a lot of regular clothes in larger sizes, like elastic waisted skirts. The maternity store stuff never worked out for me. And sweats were my savior. I actually taught whole days of public school in velour sweat pants from Old Navy’s regular clothes. With a big shirt on, I was able to keep the bambino a secret from my kiddos (all 600 of them!) for a really long time!
Late to the party, but I second Motherhood stores and the Bella Band. I was disappointed in Target maternity, though. I only found one pair of jeans there that worked well for me.
I was so bummed to see that silly comment. I read your blog for YOU, not just your knitting. Keep on writing what you want. It’s your blog after all!
I have the same problem with the thighs on pants. What the hell is wrong with the pants manufacturers of the world? That said, my best friend had good luck at Gap Maturnity. They have different levels (?) of maturnity sizing depending on how big your tummy is and she thought their jeans and dress pants were very comfortable (and I must admit that I didn’t read all of your comments, so someone probably already told you all of this). Hang in there – things will get better and the crabby people of the world can just get lost. So there.
I’d like to respectfully comment “on the flip side” of all of you. I have absolutely no interest in children, pregnancy and especially any other bodily functions that come along with it. BUT this is YOUR blog and you CAN post whatever you want…that is an obvious given. In a previous post though, you started with:
“My bloglines subscriptions are dropping like a big belly in the ninth month! I mean, sure, pregnancy’s all wonderful and everything and a miracle blah blah blah, but let’s face it: I wouldn’t want to hear about someone puking everyday, so why should you? (Still happening by the way.)”
By mentioning that your subscriptions dropped it seems to imply that you care about retaining a certain readership. All I’m saying is that the “anonymous poster” is probably not alone in their feelings.
Hi. Another vote for JCPenney’s here. I bought quite a few shirts at Old Navy, but my butt and hips were too big for their clothes…I felt like they were shaped for 15 year old girls. And I’m built more like their grannies. At any rate, enjoy the pregnancy. Hopefully it will get better, and when you’re feeling the little critter kicking around in there, it’s all worth it.
Hi Cara,
I still LOVE your blog, BTW, and am so sorry that some people are upsetting you.
But what I really wanted to tell you is that Target has very cute and reasonable priced maternity clothes. Liz Lang. I actually think their maternity clothes are better than their regular clothes, now thaat they have defined their market as juniors who weigh no more than 112 pounds and misses who are square and work in offices and go to church. Their plus size clothes are sometimes cute, too, but don’t fit me at all. I have actually bought some cute maternity tops although that part of my life is so over, but they covered the parts that need covering and were on sale and cute besides.
Keep that chin bump UP!
Ellene
GAP, dude, GAP! (maternity, natch)
Cara, you look wonderful, and I am totally enjoying your pregnancy chronicles – so sorry for the negative person in the crowd, but really, it’s her loss…
Hi, Cara — I’m well into my 3rd trimester of my last (planned) pregnancy, and I have a ton of stuff I can’t fit into anymore. I’d be more than happy to pass it along. It’s all L or XL, nothing boot cut. I’m in North Jersey, so could even meet to pass them along if you want to pick and choose. Let me know.
Oh, and about the negative jerky person — totally her loss. I love reading about other people’s pregnancies, even when I’m not pregnant.
Aw, you are so very cute with the bump!!!
Best of luck with the clothes; I’d vote for skirts myself, but that’s the way I am anyway 🙂
Cara, I recommend you refund the subscription fees to people who no longer choose to read your blog…oh, wait, we don’t pay you for this. Hmm, well, then since you obviously have forced the person to read your blog, you should have your henchmen removed from the persons home. You didn’t send any, you say? Well, if you are not charging, and you are not forcing people to read your blog, then what right does anyone have to say about your topics? Are you breaking copyright restrictions? No, pregnancy is not covered by copyright. Hmm, I know…that person can move on and not read your blog anymore, and you can shrug, and shake your head and they can get over their sense of self-importance.
Hopefully you are not far enough into the ‘name that horomone’ phase of pregnancy to let it get to you. That can be an amazing stage, when you sit back and look at it analytically. I can remember freaking out my ex by sitting and crying…why, well it just felt good and it felt right at the time. No, there was nothing anyone could do for me, no I was not sad or upset, it just felt good. Good Times!
As for clothes, at this stage…stretchy pants like yoga pants or sweats. Another couple of months you will need actual maternity pants. Skirts and jumpers would be an option, except for the weather you will be facing. You might try thrift stores and Goodwill and Salvation Army…maternity clothes are a short term item…if you can find good quality used, go for it.
*delurking*
Cara, I love the blog, the photos and the HONESTY. Don’t let the jerks upset you, you have better things to think about. Just throwing in my support.
I think the most entertaining writing is when people write about their own trials and tribulations with a sense of humor. You’re a great writer and you have a great sense of humor, so your blog is entertaining and you have lots of adoring readers. You can see with all the supportive comments here that your disparager was an exception, not the rule.
My neighbor swore by those gaucho things. You might want to try those. Cotton Basics makes this great foldover top linen pant too. Good luck.
And that commenter, well – who would go to the trouble of telling someone that? Go figure.
A#1: Thanks for posting this – I’m cruising for all the clothing suggestions! I did well with a pair of pants bought a size too large and some drawstring capris from Macy’s all summer but I’m going to need some long pants soon, and oh, the dread of shopping, it runs deep. And the resentment of shopping for the biggest part of pregnancy, which will only last a short while… I know other ladies have told me to keep the maternity stuff because I’ll be wearing it for 9 months post as well, but I can’t imagine that I’ll be bigger post-baby than I am now at 28 weeks. Oy. So thanks for getting so many suggestions, and I can say that I had great luck at Macy’s, myself.
ALSO, one of the great discoveries of my pregnancy has been acupuncture. I had allergies to kill, can’t take anything, but friends had a very experienced acupuncturist who knows exactly what she can’t and can’t do with the pregnant ladies and how to be safe. In life to this point, I could only theoretically dig the idea – a little… weird to actually go lay down on a table and get needles in ya, but I was so desparate, I didn’t think twice, and IT WAS A MIRACLE. Mine is in Brooklyn, so you might want to ask around and get a recommendation for someone more local, or I’m happy to ask mine if she has recommendations in your area – let me know. A Miracle. Really.
I think a million people said this, but I found nearly all of my clothes at Old Navy. I also avoided pants (I had 1 pair) and wore skirts and dresses, many of which I purchased in the regular side of things, just a size or two up from normal. Elastic waist bands, baybee! But then, my ankles and legs were swollen to mammoth proportions (literally – I had cankles or elephant legs, depending on the nurse I saw) so few pants fit, anyway (and lets not talk about shoes, shall we?).
Welcome to the world of too pregnant to wear your “regular” clothes, not pregnant enough to wear maternity clothes.
It’s a PITA (sometimes literally), but it’s clearly YMMV and total trial & error in finding maternity clothes that you’re comfortable in, that fit you well, and appeal to your personal sense of fashion. And we haven’t even gotten to the whole swollen feet & shoes issue.
The beauty of maternity clothes nowadays is that you do have a lot more choices (Old Navy, Gap, Target, etc). With my first kid, I was haunting the plus size stores as the mall maternity store was my only choice.
In any case, best wishes & best of luck.
(Also biting my proverbial tongue about that one rude poster ’cause I’m sure everyone else made comments more eloquently than I can.)
Oh, what a cheap shot — anonymous negative swipe. I’m loving your pregnancy comments as I have loved your knitting comments. I completely agree with both of the Lizzes. We read because we love the writer and what you have to say. Maybe we started for the knitting. But now, personally, it’s like you’re having “our” grandchild! heh!! Don’t change a damn thing, girl.
Maternity pants NEVER fit anyone, which is why I think that I wear the same sort-of-fitting ones all the time. I can’t wear the belly panel. Anything with the thick elastic band works well for me.
Here’s a bad thing (or maybe a good thing), you get so used to elastic that you forget to zip your pants once the kid. Nothing better than walking around with spit-up with a panty shot.
Hey Cara–
One of the reasons I choose to continue to read is that I admire your honesty!! Keep doing what you’re doing. We’ll keep reading!
You run a great blog! Try not to let readers get to you when they are being weird in a negative way. It’s just an energy suck. Just remember the bad comments are not about you, they are really about what ever that persons particular issues are. Some people are just a pain in the rear. I love your site and all you share we us. Don’t let the jerks get you down!
Hate to spoil the party, but there is the possiblility that your entire pregnancy may be unfun. But you’ll get a baby at the end of it. Oh, and the negative comment you got? Most likely a jealous woman who wishes she was having a baby too. Hugs.
I don’t know if anyone has suggested it yet or not, but the JC Penney Catalog has an AWESOME maternity wardrobe set. It’s a white t-shirt, black jumper a-line dress, to the knee black skirt and black straight legged pants. All wash, dry and wear!
I LIVED in that stuff during my pregnancy.
I don’t know if anyone has suggested it yet or not, but the JC Penney Catalog has an AWESOME maternity wardrobe set. It’s a white t-shirt, black jumper a-line dress, to the knee black skirt and black straight legged pants. All wash, dry and wear!
I LIVED in that stuff during my pregnancy.
If people are not happy with any blog – remove it from favourites/bloglines/etc….I do not have a blog, but all you “bloggers” who share your lives and knitting/fibre lives with us have made a real difference for me in the last couple of years (started when I stayed home with a son home with personal issues and he needed someone around – life is more reasonable now, but the knitting life continues strongly). If any post does not appeal to me, I have a key I can always push for next – and if it continues for too long, I can come visit months later if I so choose…You have a life and choices and so do I – we don’t need to tell each other all of them…keep it up – I love that things are happening for you…I can even relate on the pregnancy/maternity issues (mines now 18)…More people appreciate your blog than don’t…keep it up!
I do not normally comment. I just never know what to say. I suppose this post has elicited the exception.
I am so completely enthralled with your honesty about your pregnancy that I am all the more invested in stopping by your blog. I think your candor is wonderful. And, to be honest, I don’t read yarn blogs, I read blogs written by knitters, by people, who have lives, and that’s what I like to hear about (their lives), not their k3togs.
So, please, don’t stop writing about your experience, thoughts, expectations, and frustrations, regardless of whether they’re related to pregnancy, yarn, family, marriage, career, or anything else.
Good luck with your shopping!
Here’s what I wore until five months: elastic waist pants from CP Shades in a size or two bigger than my usual size. Very comfy, not tight in the legs. And they have a Soho store (I just googled it). I also liked the bellybasics.com Pregnancy Survival Kit, which I wore to work oh, two or three times a week — I ditched the leggings, but wore the skirt, dress, and shirt constantly. They used to sell it in the hosiery department at stores like Bloomingdales, don’t don’t if they still do. Everything else pretty much came from Target or my mom’s sewing machine.
Amy
I have two words for you: miracle pants. I got a pair my first preganancy from Motherhood Maternity (online) and wore them into the ground. Seriously. I would come home from work, change into enormo-pj bottoms, wash my pants, and wear them the next day. Woe to the person who commented on the fact that I wore these things Every. Single. Day. These babies have a side zipper and those ring-type adjustable belt tabs on each size so you can let them out as your tummy grows. I am 24 weeks right now on my second preganancy, and one of the first new things I bought this time around was a new pair of miracle pants (because the old ones were reVOLTing from being worn so much). As you’ve heard, Target and especially Old Navy are key for tops, but I’m telling you, these pants kept me from going to work in flannel mens XL pj pants.
Cara — get yourself to Target and the LizLangeforTarget stuff. I’m not crazy about their pants (I’m short; OldNavy.com for short sizes) but right now they have some very nice tops. I’m on my 2nd pregnancy and these are great tops — 3/4-length sleeves w/empire waists that allow for belly expansion (and then de-expansion post-baby). I’ve bought two or three of them (they have several colors) but they have worked well for 2nd and 3rd trimester and will be good post-partum. Great for work and home. Also, the same line has non-shelfbra camis, which are difficult to find for pregnant women who are well-endowed, and look great under the top.
Good luck, my dear; am not going to stop reading because you’re preggers. This is *your* blog. Go nuts.
Well, isn’t that SPECIAL. The comment, I’m commenting about. People. That comment and its fake email address have all the hallmarks of a certain nasty psycho-person I know. It could be her or it could be someone like her. Either way, I puke, pee, slime all over her. (I assume it’s a “her”)
Ugh. Maternity clothes. I found one pair of pants that I did not hate on clearance from babystyle. (Clearance! So I didn’t have to sell the car to afford them!)
I definitely recommend the belly band things, as well. The ones that are not actually a part of pants. You can use them with non-maternity clothes and not have a big gap. After about 7 months I just wore mine all the time (in public) because nothing seemed to meet in the middle anymore.
Welcome to the leaky club! My daughters 10 mo and I have to keigel every time I sneeze standing up. Sometimes it works. Good luck!
The same person who made that anonymous comment is the same gutless wonder who wouldn’t say that to your face either. She and others like her for sure would not be able to survive the brutal beating they would get from your throng of readers if she had the guts to list her real email address. At least if she had you could at least give her some respect for having some honor. I don’t know what is up with people nowadays. I thought blogging was a way of putting your personal journal out there for people to read or not to read – you know, like with TV – CHANGE THE FLIPPIN’ CHANNEL, LADY!!Sure, maybe some of us who have been there/done that 20 some-odd years ago are not listening with baited breath to hear about every single milestone in a person’s pregnancy – but at least I realize that it will be peppered here and there with knitting content and the pregnancy – it’s a temporary thing. Feel free to “puke and tell” to your hearts content and maybe I’ll read it or maybe I’ll skip it – but the bottom line is that it’s YOUR blog and it’s content is entirely up to you. It’s not like we are paying to read you! Dang that really irks me for you. I hope you will just let it roll off and not let it trouble you. One bad apple and all that!
This is a stinky fart at the anonymous ne’er-do-well
(|)≈≈≈
And why not put a subtitle:
January One:
Knitting Interuppted While I Grow Another Living Being Inside MY BODY
I would also include stinky fart, but you may have more class.
Cara – hang in there! Pregnancy is not all roses and sweets. I like you being you! I’m just so freakin’ happy for you that I want to hear it all – especially since I’m done having babies. Sorry for the meanness of some.
That commenter is a total weenie — I am happy to read whatever you have to say about your life outside of knitting, and I thank you for the pretty pictures, too! It’s a lot of work, more so when you are pregnant: I know, I was just getting a blog off the ground when I was in my second and third trimester, so I’m totally rooting for pregnancy to get “fun” for you soon, or at least less not-fun. 🙂
I can’t believe that people feel the need to post negative comments on any blog. You’re not paying to read it. If you don’t like it don’t read it. I’m glad you talk about this and are this honest. I haven’t had kids neither have my close friends and I didn’t know this kind of thing happened so its good to know! Write about dust bunnies if that is what inspires you!
My favorite maternity-clothes shopping moment was when the 98-pound teenager at Motherhood Maternity suggested that until I was ready for maternity clothes, I should wear my husband’s clothes. My husband, who is a foot taller than me and out-weighs me by about 75 pounds, was standing next to me trying not to laugh.
That commenter was totally out of line. I loooove your knitting content, and SpinOut, but part of what makes your blog so compelling is the glimpses of your personal life. Keep sharing whatever you want to share and please try to remember the 100s (maybe thousands?) who LOVE your blog.
That commenter sucks. My suggestion is Serenity panty liners. They rock..Oh I guess that this comment is out of line but shoot! 😉
I like reading your pregancy posts! Reminds me of when I was young and having my kids. My youngest is pregnant now (33 weeks) and has her own pregnancy blog; I link to hers from mine, which has knitting, grandbabies, yard sales, and whatever else is floating my boat at the moment. You’re a wonderful photographer and I can hardly wait to start seeing pictures of your adorable baby! (Oh, when I was having my kids? Well, let’s just say the clothes were only slightly updated from the I Love Lucy days… pussycat bows, puff sleeves, peter pan collars, voluminous tops, and cutouts so the bare belly hung out. Not on me, thank goodness I could sew!)
I like reading your pregancy posts! Reminds me of when I was young and having my kids. My youngest is pregnant now (33 weeks) and has her own pregnancy blog; I link to hers from mine, which has knitting, grandbabies, yard sales, and whatever else is floating my boat at the moment. You’re a wonderful photographer and I can hardly wait to start seeing pictures of your adorable baby! (Oh, when I was having my kids? Well, let’s just say the clothes were only slightly updated from the I Love Lucy days… pussycat bows, puff sleeves, peter pan collars, voluminous tops, and cutouts so the bare belly hung out. Not on me, thank goodness I could sew!)
Your so freakin funny, I wish you lived close by. I would make you maturnity close that custom fit.
Very nice baby bump on ya! Good luck finding something to wear I am usre you will!! Clothes shopping has NEVER been my favorite hobby either, and Im not preggy.. If I was Id probably hate it more! As for you comment from the person not reading you blog anymore. PFT TO THEM! I still enjoy coming here and reading! even if it is about you getting sick because I am waiting for the day you get to have where you DONT get sick and you finally get all your knitting mojo back!… 🙂 BTW, CONGRATULATIONS Hopefully all the fun starts soon for ya!
Two suggestions:
#1, my BFF from HS is super cheap and used hair elastics to extend her regular jeans into maternity pants for quite a long time. Simply fold the elastic in half and insert it through the button hole, then attach both loops onto the button. Your favorite jeans are still wearable for a while into your pregnancy.
#2, if you sew (I can’t remember if you do or not) there are a ton of tutorials on line for making your own maternity jeans. It looks really very simple, and you can make them from jeans from thrift stores, or from pairs you have lying around the house– and you can make the belly panel as big or small as you need it.
I don’t know if this will be your style, but dresses my friend. dresses. because just when it gets fun and you can wear something for about 35 seconds in your second trimester (and I hate to even say this) by the end nothing is going to fit. not even the big maternity clothes. dresses are your friend.
or skirts. like elastic type waist skirts….
and the incredibly rude (she was rude. it was not tactful, it was rude.) reader that posted about not reading anymore because it was gross? Cara, I just don’t even know what to say adn it’s not often in my life I find that I am at a loss for words. I guess I am just fairly disgusted by HER. And what makes it even better is she didn’t have the guts to post her email address either. I guess if you really wanted to take it apart she is probably jealous, maybe she is trying for a baby or had a bad experience or sommething so she takes it out on you because she is sad and you are happy…not that this ANY excuse, there is NO reason to behave like that. It is NEVER Ok to hurt someone’s feelings just for the fun of it which is what this seemed like to me. It was not constructive and all it did was make you feel badly. It acomplished nothign and she must have known that, but she made herself feel better somehow by making you feel crappy and that is NOT ok. And I assume there is some motive behind it that does not involve knitting or blogs…but the only way that makes it better is if you can look at it and realize it’s not you or your blog or your pregnacy or your pee or your puke that truly made her feel the need to write this. It’s about her and somethign that is going on in her little head that made her write it. And honestly you are better off w/ out readers like that. At this point in your life you just need to surround yourself with positive and loving people. And didn’t her mother ever tell her that if she doesn’t have anything nice to say don’t say anything at all? I am angry on your behalf and I dont’ even KNOW you. Anyhow, for what it’s worth I am perfectly happy to read about knitting and perfectly happy to read about babies and perfectly happy to read about puke. it’s not gross, it’s part of life. a beautiful part of life. maybe not so beautiful when your head is in the toilet, but a means to a beautiful end. And anyone that finds this gross needs to put her big girl panties on and GROW UP.
There.
You look great btw. That little baby belly is awesome. make sure you take lots of pictures, even if you don’t show anyone cause you never get this time back. you will be glad to have them.
Cara, my sweet, I’m beyond mortified to know that I’ve been so out of touch that I missed this fan-fucking-tabulous news. I ad to run over here immediately and tell you that I am SO excited for you. Over the moon, even. Contgratulations. I know you guys have to be thrilled.
Also, though I know everyone has already said it 5 jillion times, Old Navy and Target will save you, they will. ALL maternity-specific stores that I could find had CRAP clothes, and most of them for WAY more money than those two stores. I mean, for reals, i KNOW these are ‘temporary’ clothes (here’s where I don’t tell you that they’re still all I can wear, 4 months out), but I shouldn’t have to FEEL like I’m wearing a disposable wardrobe. I also REFUSED to pay top dollar for crap I wouldn’t want to wear even if someone gave it to me for free.