Fifteen

That’s how long G and I have been together – and to be honest – it’s freaking me out a little.

Saturday is fifteen years since THAT DAY. The day we first decided that we were going to be together forever, and while it hasn’t been completely smooth sailing, time has definitely flown by. I can’t believe it’s been that long. We’ve lived together for fourteen of those years and been married for four. When we finally did get married, I insisted that it be on August 6th – THAT DAY – eleven years later. I’m so glad we did that. It was a Monday, like the one in 1990 and we eloped in Vermont, just the two of us and Taffy, our JP and the flowers in front of the court house where our ceremony took place exactly matched the flowers that were painted on my dress. I got married with a plain platinum band and inside it’s inscribed August 6 – because I couldn’t decide between 1990 and 2001 and I wanted to incorporate both.

Why is it freaking me out? I love G more than anything and he’s truly my best friend in the world – the person I feel safest with. I think I’m freaking out because I’m getting older. It’s really odd to think that I’ve been with him my ENTIRE ADULT LIFE. I’ve now lived out of my parents’ house longer than I lived there. I’ve known G for eighteen years.

G is almost eight years older than me (his birthday is on Sunday) and he’s fighting the whole aging thing and I’ve always been pretty cavalier about it – you’re only as old as you feel yada yada yada. But guess what? Turns out those numbers are kind of scary after all!

Of course, I know, you can’t look at your life as a series of numbers – but it’s anniversaries and birthdays when you DO look at those numbers and they keep getting bigger and bigger and you just have to wonder – where did all that time go? And how much time is left? [GASP!] It doesn’t seem like it’s been that long at all, which I’m sure is a good thing – if it felt like forever I’d be really worried.

As I mentioned, G’s birthday is on Sunday. Birthday’s were never a big deal in his family, but they’re a big deal to me. G and I are incredibly generous with each other all year round – in time, in love, in gifts – I mean really – if we want it we generally just get it for us. But I used to love spoiling him early on in our relationship. Waking up on his birthday and pulling out all of these elaborately wrapped gifts. He would get so choked up and I love making him feel special. As the years have gone on – it’s getting harder and harder to spoil him. Hence, I have nothing for his birthday this year. Sure, keeping sane has kept me preoccupied, but still, I like to have SOMETHING.

Lee Ann might have solved the problem. She found a Dali print we saw last year on a trip to Cape Cod – a lithograph of St. George & the Dragon that we fell in love with (my patron saint, if you will!) and I looked and looked and couldn’t find it and then LeeAnn goes and finds it in like five seconds. But anyway, it’s up for auction today and I just put a bid in. I have no way to gauge the price on these things – it’s beyond my scope – but I hope I get it and I hope it doesn’t go to my high bid.

I didn’t do any knitting – well a couple of rows on a square – yesterday. That’s okay – I’ve still got ten weeks and three days to finish short rows.

Comments

  1. That’s a great picture! Happy (almost) Anniversary to both of you and Happy Birthday to G!

  2. Happy Day, Happy Day, Happy Day!!! Ain’t love grand?!
    Congrats.

  3. Mazel Tov!! The years do really fly by, don’t they.

  4. standing ovation! good on you both!
    age — I’m convinced it’s just nature’s way of kicking us in the butt and saying, “well, get on with it! do what you want to do — now!”
    (yes, I’m currently having a mid-life crisis/opportunity)

  5. What a very sweet post! I only hope that I find someone as special and reading things like this make it seem more possible.
    I love the picture of the two of you.

  6. It is wonderful you are both so in love after 18 years 🙂

  7. Congratulations! I hope that you two have many, many, many more happy years together.

  8. As you know, you are a very lucky pair. Many people live their whole lives without finding a soul mate. Can you imagine not having that in your life? Congratulations to two great people who deserve the love they have found and more!
    (Good luck on the auction!)

  9. Awwwwwwwwww! I think I melted. What a beautiful couple!
    I also recommend the idea of eloping in Vermont, although we did that with an audience who flew from France, so I guess you couldn’t really call it eloping. It just felt like eloping 🙂
    Good luck in the auction, and remember, if you don’t get it that way, I have another link to a place where you could purchase it, although the quality would not be as high.
    You’re very welcome 🙂 Hugs to you both.

  10. congrats! may the next 15 years find you as happy, healthy, and well as you are today!

  11. What a cute photo of you both! How exciting…congratulations! Happy to hear that you’re still so in love after all of those years 🙂

  12. Congratulations!

  13. cara and georgie sitting in a tree
    k-i-s-s-i-n-g!

  14. Happy anniversary…I’m struggling with the age thing. I turn 40 in a couple weeks. My husband is 7 years older and I’ve always always blown off the age thing until a few weeks ago…a bit melancholy I am.

  15. Happy, happy Anniversary!!! In this day & age, 15 years is a very long time top stay with one another! Hope you have a great one!
    Cara…you are such a talented photographer! When I grow up, I want to be just like you! 😉

  16. Got you beat by four years … nana boo boo. 😉 Great pic of you two. Happy Anniversary babes!

  17. beautiful, you two are. congratulations and big, big hugs.

  18. That is great, C. Love the picture. Happy anniversary to you both! 😉

  19. Congratulations on the anniversary, and happy birthday to G! I know what you mean about the numbers thing. John is 11 years older than I am, which hasn’t bothered me until this year; he turns 60 this year, which just sounds, well, old. And scary.